When i was single i used to think i would marry a perfect angel, a person we've
been in relationship for a very long time, not minding myself that perfect angel ended on paper. And now I ended up marrying a slightly wrong person. Do you think that there is a perfect person? The reality is that you should expect 100% perfect match, not 100% perfect person. Now that the easiest and costliest mistake is to marry the wrong partner, it is wise to read from others mistakes. You don't need to pay fees for what others have paid for. Three of the reasons i married the wrong person fall into the following categories.
1. I was too confused between three people
Long term relationship should not push you into the wrong house. All i should have done was to list their qualities in terms of compassion, love, care, loyalty, kindness, trust, respect, hospitality, etc. One person may not have all the qualities but i know the ones i could manage and the ones i couldn't.
(2) We didn't understand ourselves
We’re distinctively neurotic, unbalanced and immature, but don’t know yet the details because no one ever encourages us to find them out. All of us are crazy in one way or the other. Lovers should know how to handle each others' madness, what provoke such madness and which kind of craziness to avoid even before marriage. We need to know our
attitudes towards authority, humiliation, introspection, sexual intimacy, projection, money, children, aging, fidelity etc. This knowledge won’t be available via a standard chat. You also need to know whether the person is hot-tempered or keeps worry to self. Although it is difficult to know the difficult side of persons nature, however taking the relationship as casual as possible with time can reveal the persons true nature.
(3) I ignored the warning signs
I saw some warning signs like incompatibility in personality but I keep on moving forward. If you know that the person normally likes what you hate and on the contrary you like what the person hates, i think you are somehow incompatible. Some people so much believe in change after wedding. Yes some people do, while others don't. How sure are you that the person will change after wedding? I encourage you to avoid the error of marrying the wrong person if you can.
been in relationship for a very long time, not minding myself that perfect angel ended on paper. And now I ended up marrying a slightly wrong person. Do you think that there is a perfect person? The reality is that you should expect 100% perfect match, not 100% perfect person. Now that the easiest and costliest mistake is to marry the wrong partner, it is wise to read from others mistakes. You don't need to pay fees for what others have paid for. Three of the reasons i married the wrong person fall into the following categories.
1. I was too confused between three people
Long term relationship should not push you into the wrong house. All i should have done was to list their qualities in terms of compassion, love, care, loyalty, kindness, trust, respect, hospitality, etc. One person may not have all the qualities but i know the ones i could manage and the ones i couldn't.
(2) We didn't understand ourselves
We’re distinctively neurotic, unbalanced and immature, but don’t know yet the details because no one ever encourages us to find them out. All of us are crazy in one way or the other. Lovers should know how to handle each others' madness, what provoke such madness and which kind of craziness to avoid even before marriage. We need to know our
attitudes towards authority, humiliation, introspection, sexual intimacy, projection, money, children, aging, fidelity etc. This knowledge won’t be available via a standard chat. You also need to know whether the person is hot-tempered or keeps worry to self. Although it is difficult to know the difficult side of persons nature, however taking the relationship as casual as possible with time can reveal the persons true nature.
(3) I ignored the warning signs
I saw some warning signs like incompatibility in personality but I keep on moving forward. If you know that the person normally likes what you hate and on the contrary you like what the person hates, i think you are somehow incompatible. Some people so much believe in change after wedding. Yes some people do, while others don't. How sure are you that the person will change after wedding? I encourage you to avoid the error of marrying the wrong person if you can.
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