"There is always part of my mind that's preparing for the worse, and another part of my mind that believes if i prepare for it, the worse won't happen", says Redfield.
I can't tel the story of people who invest huge amount of time preparing for wedding and have not made a single effort preparing for marriage.
How you prepare for marriage would determine whether the best or the worse will happen after wedding. It is good that one prepares , not only for wedding but also for marriage.
While you prepare for marriage, note that you may be fully prepare for wedding but can't be fully prepared for marriage because marriage is a continuous life project.
Do you want to know whether you are prepared, qualified, ready or available for marriage? The following warning signs indicate that you are not yet ready for marriage.
1. You have not discover and develop your talent
2. You are married to your job
3. You are too stingy
4. You don't want to take family responsibility
5. You are married to alcohol and/or drugs
6. You don't listen to nobody
7. You keep following beauty
8. You keep complaining about unhappy and failed marriages
9. You don't trust even your fiancé
10. You are not aware of the reasons why relationship fails
(1). You have not discovered your talent
You don't have a well defined job or any work that you do and excel at it. You jumps from one job to another, several times in a year . To avoid marriage blow find a stable job before you marry.
(2) You are married to your job
Your career become too important that you don't have time for any friendship or relationship. Red flag!
(3) You are too stingy
You don't want any relationship not because you are not matured to prepare for marriage or you are engaged but because you don't want to spend a dim for any relationship. Red flag!
(4) You don't want to take family responsibility
If in any way you don't want to discharge your duty, take responsibility for wife/husband and children, you are not qualified for marriage. Red flag!
(5) You are married to alcohol and/or drugs
Any time you attends social occasions, you joins people who are married to alcohol and drugs and continue with the drinking business and forget about any thing marriage. Red flag!
(6) You don't listen to nobody
You don't listen to advice or counseling. The worse part is when you are angry nobody can calm you down. Red flag!
(7) You keep following beauty
The word "virtue" has never been written in your dairy. Instead of keeping relationship with people you have common goals, you follow people whose goals are in conflict with your goals. Red flag!
(8) You always complain about unhappy and failed marriages
You think your marriage will fail the way other marriages fail, a kind of pessimistic attitude. Red flag!
(9) You don't trust even your fiancé
You are dating and you don't trust your potential life partner that means you don't trust yourself. Red flag!
(10) You are not aware of the reasons why relationship fails
You don't like reading article that will improve your knowledge about how to live in harmony and happiness. Red flag!
Despite being qualified to marry, some people have their reasons why they are not or will not marry. Some would say it is not yet time. In case it is your time to marry, check if you have any warning signals and make things right. Good luck.
I can't tel the story of people who invest huge amount of time preparing for wedding and have not made a single effort preparing for marriage.
How you prepare for marriage would determine whether the best or the worse will happen after wedding. It is good that one prepares , not only for wedding but also for marriage.
While you prepare for marriage, note that you may be fully prepare for wedding but can't be fully prepared for marriage because marriage is a continuous life project.
Do you want to know whether you are prepared, qualified, ready or available for marriage? The following warning signs indicate that you are not yet ready for marriage.
1. You have not discover and develop your talent
2. You are married to your job
3. You are too stingy
4. You don't want to take family responsibility
5. You are married to alcohol and/or drugs
6. You don't listen to nobody
7. You keep following beauty
8. You keep complaining about unhappy and failed marriages
9. You don't trust even your fiancé
10. You are not aware of the reasons why relationship fails
(1). You have not discovered your talent
You don't have a well defined job or any work that you do and excel at it. You jumps from one job to another, several times in a year . To avoid marriage blow find a stable job before you marry.
(2) You are married to your job
Your career become too important that you don't have time for any friendship or relationship. Red flag!
(3) You are too stingy
You don't want any relationship not because you are not matured to prepare for marriage or you are engaged but because you don't want to spend a dim for any relationship. Red flag!
(4) You don't want to take family responsibility
If in any way you don't want to discharge your duty, take responsibility for wife/husband and children, you are not qualified for marriage. Red flag!
(5) You are married to alcohol and/or drugs
Any time you attends social occasions, you joins people who are married to alcohol and drugs and continue with the drinking business and forget about any thing marriage. Red flag!
(6) You don't listen to nobody
You don't listen to advice or counseling. The worse part is when you are angry nobody can calm you down. Red flag!
(7) You keep following beauty
The word "virtue" has never been written in your dairy. Instead of keeping relationship with people you have common goals, you follow people whose goals are in conflict with your goals. Red flag!
(8) You always complain about unhappy and failed marriages
You think your marriage will fail the way other marriages fail, a kind of pessimistic attitude. Red flag!
(9) You don't trust even your fiancé
You are dating and you don't trust your potential life partner that means you don't trust yourself. Red flag!
(10) You are not aware of the reasons why relationship fails
You don't like reading article that will improve your knowledge about how to live in harmony and happiness. Red flag!
Despite being qualified to marry, some people have their reasons why they are not or will not marry. Some would say it is not yet time. In case it is your time to marry, check if you have any warning signals and make things right. Good luck.
Samuel this is serious! I never know there is such a clear gap between marriage and wedding. Most times people only get ready and prepared for wedding not really Tue marriage life. thanks for the information.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome Uthman
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