Although they say voice of elder is a voice of reason, one may know the reason behind some elders being adamant to let their children marry someone from another tribe. Seeking parent's consent is important in but God's consent is the most important more especially when parent don't have a genuine reason why you shouldn't marry out side your tribe.
It will not be easy to break a relationship that has been built over a long period of time just because of a flimsy and sleazy excuse disguised behind tribal difference when there has been that tribal difference before the relationship was started. If you are sure you can't effort to miss your fiance because you know him/her in and out, you can go ahead and convince your parent. Some parent don't even mind that tribal difference but others do.
How do I convince my parent to consent on my inter tribal marriage?
Find out the reasons why your parent don't want you to marry outside your tribe. Some times they may hide different reason under tribal difference while it is not the real reason why they don't want you to marry that person.
It will be easier to convince your parent if the actual reason why they don't want you to marry that person is tribal difference than when they have another hidden reason they may not be willing to disclose to you.
You should make your will clear to your parent on time not at the late hour. If you are a type of person who doesn't mind marrying from another tribe, try and make it known to your parent even when you are not in a relationship with person from another tribe, who knows tomorrow.
It is important to know your parent's mind and it is also important for them to know your mind concerning inter tribal marriage. So that it will not take them by surprise when you introduce your fiance who may be from another tribe.
Your parent may not know how good the person is. Tel your parent every good thing about the person, how he has been helping you and your friends to grow financially and spiritually. Tel them about his personality, characters and what he means to you. If you are financially stable, that is an added advantage.
When your parent seems not to approve your choice of life partner, don't behave rudely or be stubborn and don't allow your fiance behave rudely out of annoyance either. Don't talk too much about it since that can't stop you from sneaking out on a date. You can tell them you are not in hurry to marry that's why you took your time to know him.
Get others involved in convincing your parent. More especially people your parent respect , your religion leaders, or people who can influence them to change their mind. Convincing your parent may not be that easy so it may take some time. If you stick to each other for a long time they may later change their mind. Some parent may do all this just to test how much you love your fiance.
If your parent are suggesting a person you doesn't get along with, it is not advisable to marry such person because in marriage, the first thing is God's approval and your happiness.
Many people left the persons their heart were deeply in love with, married the person their parent chose for them and ended up in divorce. While many others made their choice and ended up marrying the wrong person. In which ever case marriage failure happens, but you are responsible for what ever choice you make.
In conclusion, I urge you to pray and fast fervently concerning your marriage. Ask God to give you more reasons why you should marry him/her and also pray that God should show you reasons why you shouldn't marry him/her if there is any. With God all things are possible.
What do think about seeking parental consent in inter-tribal marriage? Is it compulsory or not.
You may help someone by putting down your story in the comment box.
It will not be easy to break a relationship that has been built over a long period of time just because of a flimsy and sleazy excuse disguised behind tribal difference when there has been that tribal difference before the relationship was started. If you are sure you can't effort to miss your fiance because you know him/her in and out, you can go ahead and convince your parent. Some parent don't even mind that tribal difference but others do.
How do I convince my parent to consent on my inter tribal marriage?
Find out the reasons why your parent don't want you to marry outside your tribe. Some times they may hide different reason under tribal difference while it is not the real reason why they don't want you to marry that person.
It will be easier to convince your parent if the actual reason why they don't want you to marry that person is tribal difference than when they have another hidden reason they may not be willing to disclose to you.
You should make your will clear to your parent on time not at the late hour. If you are a type of person who doesn't mind marrying from another tribe, try and make it known to your parent even when you are not in a relationship with person from another tribe, who knows tomorrow.
It is important to know your parent's mind and it is also important for them to know your mind concerning inter tribal marriage. So that it will not take them by surprise when you introduce your fiance who may be from another tribe.
Your parent may not know how good the person is. Tel your parent every good thing about the person, how he has been helping you and your friends to grow financially and spiritually. Tel them about his personality, characters and what he means to you. If you are financially stable, that is an added advantage.
When your parent seems not to approve your choice of life partner, don't behave rudely or be stubborn and don't allow your fiance behave rudely out of annoyance either. Don't talk too much about it since that can't stop you from sneaking out on a date. You can tell them you are not in hurry to marry that's why you took your time to know him.
Get others involved in convincing your parent. More especially people your parent respect , your religion leaders, or people who can influence them to change their mind. Convincing your parent may not be that easy so it may take some time. If you stick to each other for a long time they may later change their mind. Some parent may do all this just to test how much you love your fiance.
If your parent are suggesting a person you doesn't get along with, it is not advisable to marry such person because in marriage, the first thing is God's approval and your happiness.
Many people left the persons their heart were deeply in love with, married the person their parent chose for them and ended up in divorce. While many others made their choice and ended up marrying the wrong person. In which ever case marriage failure happens, but you are responsible for what ever choice you make.
In conclusion, I urge you to pray and fast fervently concerning your marriage. Ask God to give you more reasons why you should marry him/her and also pray that God should show you reasons why you shouldn't marry him/her if there is any. With God all things are possible.
What do think about seeking parental consent in inter-tribal marriage? Is it compulsory or not.
You may help someone by putting down your story in the comment box.
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